Tame your inner bridezilla vol 1 – About uncertainty
[intro]There’s so much we talk about with our couples before the weddings. As good as we may try to prepare you, there are questions that can creep up that you may not be aware of. This is not an attempt to “prepare you for the worst”, but rather a series of posts rambling about how to look beyond the hurdles of planning your wedding. So everyone who has an inner bridezilla, groomzilla or bridesmaidzilla, gather around :)[/intro]
You know what they say, right. Failing to plan is planning to fail.
But on the other side of the coin – relying on the plan only, often means planning to fail as well. Weather is nothing you can rely on, but a shower or even an approaching storm certainly will not stop the smiles and joy.
Your wedding has 10 000’s of components – vendors and guests to start with. You can not seriously expect to control every single person and the obstacles they might encounter. So one of the most important things to keep at the back of your mind is reminding yourself – you are doing this to celebrate you, your love, happiness.
It’s not an exercise in world domination. Embrace the uncertainty.
On the smaller scale of things…
Regarding your wedding photography, you might not get all the shots you wanted, but that’s okay.
We have yet to meet a bride that has a shot list with bullet points or a Pinterest board and being very explicit about it (lucky us). Don’t get me wrong – we like to know what your expectations are. But saying “I’d like the sun setting like this and us being like this and then a couple of seagulls flying like this”.
You might not see the sun setting because of a rainstorm. The landscape could be, well, not THE landscape. And the seagulls, or coastline, for that matter, could be some hundred kilometers away. But it’s all OK.
Because stormy skies could turn out even better. And 9 times out of ten there is at least some sort of scenery we can work with.
But you know what’s the worst that could happen? It’s the couple being stressed. I’m not saying we’ve been there and seen that in pure form, but you can totally feel it, if they are worried about even some tiny matter. And it shows on the pictures. And even worse is the fact that the random viewer who sees the photos might not get it at first, but they themselves, they’ll remember HOW they felt that moment.
If they felt in love, they’ll feel in love with that image.
So what CAN you do
…if your wedding is in X months?
Find out how your photographer works. What’s the story behind some of the images. Get a feel of what it’s like being photographed, the experience.
If it strikes a chord with what you expect, forget about the photographer. Forget worrying.
They will ask questions, which is good. But on the wedding day – do at least the photographer a favor and don’t worry.
When I started writing this, I realized the best work happens and we are in sailing waters when me and Sigrid – we have a little bit of a nerve going on. But the bride and groom – they are chill as hell. Because we are on our toes, looking for the shots, but the couple is just in love. Crazy stuff, huh.
Next week we’ll look at everyone else involved besides the photographers. Yes, including the bridesmaids. Stay tuned.